21 Things I Learned at 21


Today I’m 21, which means that I can now order a margarita while looking the waiter in the eye. It also means that I, all of the sudden, have it all figured out. Since I’m an #adult now, my wisdom is immense and I feel the need to share it with you *twirls wine glass in the air while wears two different pairs of socks.* Here are 21 things that I’ve learned throughout my 21 years of life.

  1. Self Love is discipline.

  2. Tone of voice is important, the way you use tone can both save you or destroy you.

  3. You are still so young.

  4. Don’t ever feel bad for saying no to social engagements. JOMO is the new FOMO.

  5. If it’s right it won’t feel wrong. If it’s wrong, it won’t feel right. There are very few exceptions to that.

  6. I still really suck at being patient. But I’m getting better.

  7. Stress will wreck havoc on your mind, body, and soul.

  8. There’s a lot more to someone than they may lead on. Refrain from judging off of what they initially give you.

  9. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Be what you seek and be patient (again, still working on this.)

  10. Being ok with being alone means being secure with who you are.

  11. Letting something go usually leads to gaining something in return.

  12. Spend time with your family, they will always have your back.

  13. Overthinking is p o i n t l e s s .

  14. Being impulsive has it’s time and it’s place. So, does thinking things through. Know where each serve their purpose.

  15. Inspiration will come and go.

  16. Live your truth and fuck anything that doesn’t encourage that.

  17. Beer makes you happy. Tequila makes you wanna party. Gin slurs your words. Brown liquor is your friend. White Claws and other spiked seltzers taste like ass and make you bloated. Wine makes your cheeks red. All alcohol makes your cheeks red. Vodka makes you blackout. Stop saying yes to vodka.

  18. Make your mental and physical health a priority and remember to slow down.

  19. If you aren’t seeing results, you aren’t working hard enough.

  20. Honesty, quality time, and acts of service are my love languages.

  21. Your past doesn’t need to define your future, your past doesn’t need to be consistent with your future, but your past shouldn’t be something you are ashamed of. You are constantly evolving and you should regret nothing. You are who are you because of who you were 10 years ago, 6 months ago, or even yesterday. Learn from it, don’t run from it. Every day is an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve oneself.