april 27th, 2017
There's something sweet about trying something new. It's not just the thrill of doing something for the first time. It's not the excitement of the unknown. It's the challenge that comes with diving into something so foreign to you with the possibility of improvement. It's the idea that in a few months or even weeks, you may not be so foreign to that something. You may come out on the other side, better, stronger, & more enlightened. You may find a new passion, hobby, strength, or even weakness. But the thing about new things is not just that they're exciting, which don't get me wrong they are. It's the idea that whether we fail or succeed at them, it provokes change within us. We learn something about ourselves that we hadn't known before. We grow.
New Years Eve, the day of setting goals and well, trying new things. Come New Years day, we begin these new things. You may try, and fail, or succeed, or give up. But we all learn. One thing I've come to realize is that I think we are all aware of the self-improvement that can come out of this. I believe we all see the potential for it to become a passion or even a lifestyle otherwise, why would we even begin to try it? You see, that's the problem. It's not the excitement of the unknown that makes trying new things appealing, it's the comfort of the known. And with comfort, comes lack of drive. Lack of motivation. Therefore, people give up on those new activities, fall off the wagon, become less determined. We always start something new with the expectation for it to become something great. When in actuality, it doesn't matter if it becomes a passion or if it's something you realize you're terrible at. What matters is that it makes you learn something about yourself.
We know in the back of our minds what our goal is. We know what we should look like, what we should weigh, what skills we should possess, what life lessons will be taught, and how strong we should be at the end of all of it. Instead of going into it blindly and letting the results come on their own, in their own way, and looking their own way, we expect. We idealize our results so much that if we don't get there, we get frustrated, lose motivation, and we give up. Nothing great comes from pressure, restriction, forcefulness & unrealistic expectations. You might be thinking, "but my expectations are realistic!" Well, answer this for me: have you dedicated yourself to this expectation in an open, loving way? Have you put your heart, mind, & soul into it in a healthy way? If you can answer yes to these questions, but haven't seen results, your goal is unrealistic. And if you answered no, you need to change your mindset. You need to alter your approach. Go into this new thing with energy, dedication, exuberance, intuition, enjoyment, love, gentleness, passion, consistence, and persistence and lose the expectations. Because if you go into a new thing with a healthy mindset, you will see results. Those results might not be exactly what you wanted, but they're still results and having expectations will make you under appreciate your progress. Be proud of every improvement. Trying something new is so sweet, don't make it a bitter experience. That line was so cheesy and lame, but just roll with it. Oh, and try something new y'all.